There comes a time in life where we have to start over. There are many ways to go about it, whether we make a conscious choice to change or forced to by unforeseen circumstances. The process is never easy but in the long run always worth it. It requires commitment to change and being consciously aware of the barriers that can prevent or delay the process. These three barriers are as follows:
- Self-Doubt
This is the biggest barrier people face when starting over. The mind not disciplined or when the inner critic takes over can create all sorts of negative possibilities and outcomes, making the case for self-doubt and self-sabotage. Doubting yourself will only keep you stuck. The solution is to begin disciplining your mind and finding the root cause to your negative inner critic that creates self-doubt. If you don’t want to be in that place, you’ll have to foster strength and courage to move forward.
When you do not resolve the root cause to your mindset barrier, you might subconsciously try to foil your new path. This self-sabotaging behavior can come in many forms and may rear its ugly head in any number of situations: Perhaps you’re starting a healthy lifestyle but you procrastinate going to bed at night so you end up being too tired to hit the gym in the morning. Maybe, you are looking to make more money but you allow distractions like email or unimportant tasks to sidetrack you from your goal. Whatever they are for you, these behaviors stand in the way of having the life you want.
- Lack of Follow-Through
It’s easy to say that you want to make over your life and start fresh. But actually doing it requires you to make a plan and go for it. The lack of taking action or not following through only keeps you stuck in whatever kind of rut you’ve found yourself in—perhaps even getting deeper into it as time creeps on. Even if it seems scary or risky, in your core you know that changing is the right move. Begin by writing down what the very first step would be and that may propel you to think of the next move, and then the next. Soon, you’ll be more confident and starting over could become a reality.
- No Accountability
Positive change and growth is not possible without accountability. In order to be successful, you have to celebrate your successes and have someone you trust as you embark on this journey. Many people cannot see change through with success not being accountable. Without accountability and a reward system, it’s too easy to feel discouragement, depression, and ultimately fail. To help with this, implement a way to measure your forward progress so that you can have some tangible evidence of how you’re doing. This way, you’ll be able to easily incentivize yourself at given intervals. Seeing the results will push you to keep going with your new life.
To your health & prosperity,
Christopher Salem